How To Push Through Challenging Times!

Introduction

Hey, hey, this is Darin Kidd and I am back. I know it is been a while. It has been several weeks since I’ve been live. And I’m going to share with you today exactly why that has been. And today’s going to be a little more heart to heart, is going to be a little different conversation, a little different training, but I do believe that it’s something that each and every one of you, you need to hear because even if you’re not going through something right now, you’re going to be

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5 Ways to Get Through Challenging Times

All right. So again, today, I’m going to talk to you a little bit differently. It’s going to be more of a personal conversation, and I am going to go through five specific things to help you go through the challenging times. And let me tell you, if you’re living, okay, if you’re breathing, then you’re going to go through some challenging times. And Rick Warren who wrote the Purpose Driven Life. I don’t know any of you, how many of you read that book, the Purpose Driven Life? Well, Rick Warren talks about either you’re in a storm right now. You’re going through a storm or you’re getting ready to head into a storm.

So those of you that have been following me, you may or may not know the reason that I’ve been off for the last several weeks. It’s not been a positive thing. My mom, who I was very close to passed away suddenly and was, and still am a mama’s boy. And I’m not going to talk about it too much, or I’ll start crying. And then the lab will be over immediately. But I was very close to my mom, talk to her several times every single day, very blessed to have a close relationship with her. She lived right across the street from me, and then she passed away. And the last several weeks before she passed away was very challenging, very tough. And then it’s been very tough afterwards, being so close to my mom. I told my wife recently, I’m like, man, I don’t know what’s going to happen because we would laugh. I’m such a mama’s boy when something happens to my mom and that’s exactly what happened.

Challenges are Part of Life

But anyway, I will just say that I was very fortunate and blessed to have one of the most amazing moms on the planet. And I know where she is. She is in a better place and she would want me to push on, but I’ve had to do some things to fight through this. I’m a pretty tough person, but there’s some things that just hit you pretty hard. And so what I want to do is I want to go through some things with you that I did to make it through the last several weeks. And not only that, okay, the bigger your business gets, the bigger your goals, the bigger the dreams. Then what happens is the bigger the challenges you’re going to have to face. And the bigger the challenges you face and the more obstacles you overcome, the higher you go. If you take a bow and arrow and you pull it back, the farther you pull that bow and arrow back, the farther it’s going to go.

So again, whether you’re in a challenge right now, you’re going through a challenge. You’re coming out of a challenge or you’re getting ready to go into a challenge. These things can absolutely make a positive impact in your life. So let’s go through number one. Okay. Number one, I learned this from the bestselling author, David Bird and the late billionaire Paul J. Meyer. The first thing you want to do when you’re going through challenges is you want to stop and take some time and write it on paper. It’s called a perspective analysis. A perspective analysis. A lot of times what’s in our head, it is so much worse than what it is in reality. Now not all the time, but most of the time. So when you’re going through challenges, you just sit down and act like you’re a reporter writing on yourself and just put it on paper.

Tip #1: Write Down How You’re Feeling

When you empty your mind and put it on paper, a lot of times you will find out that we magnify the situation in our mind. So even with my mom passing away and the challenges I’ve had to face with her passing away and then dealing with things afterwards, in my mind, I was magnifying a lot of the things that I had to deal with afterwards. And when I wrote it down, it made a big difference. So that’s number one, write it down.

Number two, you want to empty your head on paper. Number two, and by the way, I’ve got five bullet points I’m going to hit really quick, but they’re in no certain order. Like depending on what you’re going through right now, one may be more important than the other. So, but I’m just going to give you five of them. And then as long as you’re using all five, it doesn’t matter in which order.

Tip #2: Make a Can Do List

Number two, you want to make a can do list. A can do list. What are the things that you can do facing the challenges that you’re going through right now. So when you write can do list, then what you want to do is you want to prioritize. And I don’t like to have any more than three to five things on a daily basis to do when it comes on my to-do list, no matter what day it is. Because if you put more than three to five things, what you find is you get overwhelmed and you don’t do any of them. But if you force yourself to go, okay, what are the most important three things that I need to do today to move forward? Then it forces you to prioritize and put the most important things down that are going to get you moving in that direction. And when you can start to move in that direction, that motion creates emotion. Okay. So that’s number two, make a can-do list.

Tip #3: Take Care of Yourself

Number three, this is what I had to do. And by the way, I also inherited my mom’s Maltese dog and he is very needy and he’s missing his mom just like I’m missing. So he is outside my office door right now, whining. So if you’re wondering, what is that whining? That is my mom’s dog that she left to me. And she’s probably in heaven right now, laughing that he is being needy, just like I was needing to my mom. All right. Anyway, pretty funny. Okay, so number three is you have to take care of you. So many times we think that we’re, hey, look, because of me. I mean I’ve kicked box and then martial arts and I broke seven bones growing up and I feel like I’m a pretty tough dude. But there’s sometimes that you’re not that tough.

And I wasn’t that tough. I had to stop and go, you know what? I’ve got to take care of me. Like my blood pressure was jumping through the roof, which that normally does not happen because I eat healthy. The majority of the time I exercise probably five times a week. But going through that stuff, my blood pressure was through the roof. I mean, my head looked like a tomato. And you see that looked like a tomato before, when I get excited and I’m hot, but it was because of blood pressure. So you have to make sure when you’re going through these things, I used to go, you know what? I’ll sleep when I’m dead, I don’t need to sleep. That’s not true. You need to make sure that you’re getting your rest. You need to make sure that you’re getting water. You need to make sure that you’re getting the right nutrients. You need to make sure that you are feeding your body and doing the right things.

You wouldn’t buy a brand new car. This is what I told my kids. I’m like, what if you bought a brand new car, would you go out and just put muddy water in the gas tank? No. You wouldn’t put bad gas in that car. You would put the best gas that you possibly could. While the car’s replaceable, you are not. So when you’re going through the challenging times, you’ve got to make some time. Maybe it’s just get a little bit of exercise. And when I say a little bit, if you’re doing nothing now, I don’t care if you go on a 10 minute walk outside, ignore your phone. Do not even take your phone with you. And just look around and see…

How many times do we stop. This morning, taking my kids to school. I’m like, you know what, so many times I’ve got so many things on my mind that I forget to be present in the moment. So if you go for a walk and just get your body moving, it does magical things. So get your rest, drink some water, get a little bit of exercise, get outside and do something. Even if it’s just for a few minutes. And then what happens is you start creating these daily little habits and rituals, and then it starts to make a big difference. Maybe do something to relax and disengage for a bit. It’s okay.

Maybe some of you are at the point right now, depending on what you’re going through, you need a long weekend. You say, you know what? I need to stop and relax and just get away for the weekend. Now, get away doesn’t even mean you have to leave your house. It could be a staycation, but you’re ignoring your phone. You’re letting everybody know, hey, look, I’m not going to be available over the weekend, but make sure you’re taking care of you.

So when my mom passed away on September 2nd and my blood pressure was 160 something over 103, and I literally thought like I was going to pass out and I have four speaking engagements. And I got through two of them. And I told my wife, I call her and I’m like, you know what? If I don’t come home, you’re probably going to have to drive to Florida and come get me because I physically feel like I’m going to fall out. And so I came back, and what did I do? I went and got some IVs with some nutrients and vitamins from a place here locally. I made sure that I was getting extra sleep. I made sure that I was consuming a lot of water. I made sure that I was getting a little bit of exercise, even though I didn’t feel like the intensity that I normally do when I exercise. And it was like I recharged and I felt like a different person. And guess what? I probably kept myself from getting very sick because I was smart enough to slow down in order to go fast later on.

Tip #4: Ask Yourself Questions to Grow

All right. Number four. Okay. Let me know if any of you can relate to any of these things. Let me know if you can relate to any of these things in the comments. Number four, ask yourself the right questions like what can I learn as I grow through this experience? Not just go through it, but grow through it. What can I learn with my mom watching her pass away, being there holding her hand as she passed away. I asked myself certain questions. Like my mom lived a full life. My mom had no regrets. My mom loved everyone. My mom was a great example. What can I learn from my mom? Like what can I learn from this experience? How can I make my life better by looking at my mom’s example? So no matter how hard it is or what you’re going through, we can always learn from the challenges that we’re going through at this moment. Ask yourself the right questions. Lousy questions, get lousy answers.

Tip #5: Focus on the Positive 

And last but not least, number five, focus on the positive. Focus on the positive. Surround yourself with things that uplift you. So for me, it’s the rest of my family. For me, it’s getting outside and just stopping, and being thankful and grateful for all the things, having an attitude of gratitude. When you focus, because what I was doing is I continue to tell the story of what happened to my mom. I continued to speak things that I was very stressed about having to handle and what it did, it magnified everything and made it so much worse toward that’s what shot my blood pressure up. That’s what made me feel physically and mentally exhausted instead of going, you know what, what are the things that I’m thankful for? What are the things that I’m grateful for? And I made my list. And I wrote a… And then once I made, wrote everything on paper, did that perspective analysis. I go, what can I do? And there were things that I just couldn’t do at that point. That’s a can’t do list, not a can do.

So I wrote it on paper. I wrote the can-do list. I had to make sure that I was taking care of myself because physically I was getting run down. And guess what? If you can’t take your view and you’re not taking care of yourself, you can’t help anyone else.

And then number four, I was asking myself the right questions. What do I have to be grateful for? What do I have to be thankful for? What can I learn through what I’m going through right now? And then number five, I started focusing on the positive. I know my mom’s in a better place. She left a great example for me to follow. I’m blessed to have my kids. I want to make sure that I don’t take any minute for granted. This was a great reminder for me to go, you know what? We’re not promised tomorrow. My mom should not have been gone. And it happened just like that. And so those are the five things that I’ve used over the last several weeks.

And I’m not going to lie. It’s been tough. It’s been tough, but I’m getting through it. I’m pushing forward. And I’m like, what I’ve learned over the last several weeks can help and make an impact on a lot of people. And there are a lot of people that are experiencing a lot of things, a lot of challenges, they’re losing loved ones. They’re experiencing the ups, the downs in business. They’re going through things that are unexpected, whether it’s with their job or whatever it may be. But as this community, I want to make sure that I’m adding value in your life. I’m making sure that I’m giving things that you can do that are not just feel good things, but I’m giving you the strategy. I’m giving you the strategy. Let me know which one of those like, hey Darin, you know what, I’m glad you said this, because that one made a big difference. And I’m going to…

Which one of these are you going to implement? Because again, even if you’re not going through the challenges right now. It’s not a matter of if, it’s only a matter of when. And when it comes to building a business, if people can’t handle the challenges, so many times they go from being an employee and then they come over and they’ve never been an entrepreneur before and they don’t know what to expect. So when we share with them, hey, listen, it’s normal. It’s part of the process. And success is not a destination. One day I will arrive at that place called success. Success is actually the journey that you’re on becoming a better version of yourself on a day by day basis. And so enjoy the challenges, embrace the struggles, enjoy those obstacles because those obstacles lead to elevation. It leads you to a better version of you. It allows you to impact more and more people on a daily basis.

So just wanted to say, I appreciate you and your patience over the last several weeks. I am back. I’m heading out tomorrow to speak at a convention in Dallas and I am more excited than ever to deliver content to you, your organizations, your companies that can help you get to where you want to be sooner than later. So have an amazing rest of your day. And by the way, make sure to smash that heart button if you’re on Facebook, make sure to smash that subscribe button if you’re on YouTube. Let me know in the comments, what was a takeaway that you had today and because what that does that helps the algorithm. It helps me know that you’re getting value. And just know I appreciate you. And we will see you on the next training. Have a great rest of your day. Take care.